I’ll CALL IT OUT….I’M NOT PERFECT. Not that I believed you thought I was and if you did, well thank you very much!!
I made a resolution this year to own my faults and call out on myself when I see it necessary. We are quite comfortable calling out other people’s faults and issues, that we become blind to our own and forget how a relationship turned sour, an issue got bigger, a problem was left unsolved, a client moved on to another supplier, or simply, my love handles returned yet again! If you can’t look in the mirror, well then, we have a very serious problem indeed my friend.
I hear it all the time, and let’s be frank George, I too fall weak to this. We deflect the issue to someone or something else, that we don’t know how we were left feeling hurt, abandoned, rejected and angry, performance managed out of a business, unhealthy (and to be honest, the last time I checked, chocolate was unable to point a gun at my head and say, EAT ME) let’s not keep going; I know you get the point. But the key word is POINT. What is the point of blaming someone else for how you feel? If you can’t be true to yourself, then how the heck are you going to be true to other’s. If you can’t be brave enough to admit when you make a mistake, how do you expect someone else to forgive you? How do you build your clients trust when you make an excuse when something goes wrong?
OWN IT…first and foremost, look inside yourself (not literally, because that would just be gross) and ask…How did I contribute to this? Could I have done something better? Am I making something out of nothing? Could this just be my perception? Am I just angry at myself because I know it is my problem?
Do you know how crazy fantastic it feels when you have the guts; and I am no longer talking about those love handles, when you see and own how you play your part? It is such an empowering feeling, to not only own it, but be brave enough to admit it. And if it involves someone else and you decide to really parachute out of that plane and confront the issue….OMG, LOL, AYFR (Are You For Real!!) Congratulations, you have just evolved, you have been comfortable to call it out as is and what you get in return, is growth and self-respect, a feeling of achievement and self-empowerment, dignity and then, the respect of others.
But let’s face it. Sometimes, we are just bloody amazing and when you have looked internally and truly found and I mean genuinely found, that you are just the subject of a bad situation, put it in a box, tie a ribbon around it and PASS IT ON!!